Amanda Edmondson is my Executive Assistant at Sojourn Community Church, and Midtown Campus Coordinator for our Women’s Ministry. Amanda is my guest blogger this week at DanielSojourn.com:
When I first started attending Sojourn there were a few things that drew me in. First, the teaching is from the Bible and always gospel centered. It is intentionally reaching out to those with spiritual and physical needs. The less spiritual reason … mainly because there isn’t a “singles ministry”. I wanted to be a part of a church where it wasn’t compartmentalized. One of the most beautiful ways community is played out at large is in the diversity of age, marital status, and ethnicity.
Being single at times can be hard but being single in the church is even harder. Here’s a post I wrote for Sojourn Women over a year ago on contentment and singleness.
This past year I turned 30 and it seemed that everyone at that moment had opinions on what I should do with my life and my singleness. Many people suggested I consider going over seas and serving on the mission field, “because that’s what you do when you are a 30 year old single female”, for some women that’s apparently what they do, but not me — not because I’m not willing but because that’s not where the Lord has called me.
Others suggested I go back to school — another great suggestion but again not where the Lord has called me. Online dating comes up often; someone even took the liberty of signing me up last year –I still don’t know who did that but no thank you. There’s nothing wrong with any of these suggestions. But dear friends whom I respect and are daily doing life with me helped me realize none of these are for me right now.
Being single in a church makes me no different than my friends who are married or who are parents. We each have the same need for a savior. Our lives do look very different in the sense of responsibilities. Just like we second-guess people who are young we do the same with people who are single. At the root being single in a church makes me no less or more qualified to serve.
When Daniel first suggested I blog on this topic I cringed. As I thought it over I realized how thankful I am to be a part of a church (community group) where I am pushed to look more like Christ than I am pushed into a marriage. Not everyone’s experience of being single in a large church is the same. To be honest in the past at other churches it looked very different for me. It was helpful in those times and even now for me to be reminded that people won’t always love us perfectly. Only the Lord does.
I hope that in five years whether I’m single or married my desire and delight in the Lord would only be greater. That I would still long to behold Christ and live a life worthy of my calling to know God. I hope to live life in light of an eternal perspective and to find my joy, my hope, and my identity only in Christ because He is all I will ever need.